Your “About” section should evoke certain emotions: the person reading it should find it charming, easy to understand, insightful, and funny. Not ridiculous or hilarious, just funny.
Here are a few tips for creating an alluring text for your online dating profile, and presenting yourself in the best possible light.
Don’t be negative and demanding
Here is an example of how your profile text shouldn’t look like.
This woman comes off as mean, demanding and superficial. She doesn’t say anything about herself (other than she likes dresses and skirts – which most women like), and she dedicates her whole introduction text to bashing short and underweight men.
On the other hand, here is an example of a sweet, honest, charming introduction:
The differences are obvious, don’t you think?
Focus on your best qualities
If you aren’t the funniest person then don’t try to come off like you are. It won’t work. If you can’t make a joke – you can’t make a joke, and that’s ok. There are many guys out there who don’t care if you’re as funny as Amy Schumer. Never focus on what you lack, focus on what you have to offer.
Are you a good listener? Are you artistic? Can you cook? Are you in great shape? Do you have interesting hobbies? Take some time to think about everything you like about yourself, then write all the good stuff down.
Talk to ‘him’ the way you would talk to a friend
You want your profile to sound like you actually talk. Stuffing it with big words you never use is not a good idea. You could attract someone who actually talks that way and then what would you do if he asked you out on a date and realized you don’t really say ‘magnanimous’ in real life?
Another great idea is to let your friend write your profile text while you talk to her about what you’re looking for in a man and what your interests are. It will help you come across sincere and genuine. Try it out!
Highlight the things you care about most
The point is not attracting all kinds of men. You want to attract a man you’d be attracted to in return, which means you absolutely need to highlight the things that are important to you. Any specific values, beliefs and interests should be right there for your potential date to see and decide whether he would like to date you or not.
However, this surely doesn’t mean you should write a novel about yourself and write a long list of things you require in a man. Be selective and purposeful about what you write. Only the important things should be highlighted, not your whole life.
Be positive and confident
Even if you aren’t so sure about this online dating thing, even if you have your doubts about it, don’t mention that in your profile. If you write something like that, or even worse, something like “Just checking things out” you will come off uninterested, or like online dating is a chore for you. This is a huge turnoff. Honest, confident, humble, funny, friendly — this is how you want to be, not aloof.